I saw the following quote on a parish bulletin recently which I think makes a lot of sense and rings true in my experience. It is also helpful to remember that not everyone wants to stand out to be a formal leader, but in your own quiet way you can be a leader by your actions.
Leadership is about being of service to others, it is not about prestige and acclamation. Many of the best leaders are those who do not have any title of leadership or authority. Their leadership and authority come from what they do and how they do it. They inspire others to follow their example. They don’t demand it; they don’t bully; they don’t play power games. People simply want to follow their example.